Love Takes Action
Love can be a complicated thing.
Entire TV series and movies are built around love and relationships, which makes for fascinating entertainment.
Our 7-year-old and I recently discussed the very topic of love where it helped simplify matters – for both of us – when I posed a simple scenario.
“If I told you all the time that I loved you but never did anything for you, would you still think I love you?” I asked.
“No,” she said with a smile. “You have to do things for people to love them!”
Even at her tender age, she knows love involves action. So often the world makes love out to be some commodity that can be bought, sold, or traded depending on one’s feelings in a given moment. Media and marketing so often fool us into thinking love is infatuation, sex, or instant gratification. Yet she knows it’s far more than a feeling that comes and goes.
Real love is intentional and it’s going to take some work.
Whether or not you’re a religious person, you can still turn to the collection of sacred scriptures in the Bible for some insight on this topic of love.
Many weddings use the venerable reading from Corinthians, whereby five of its sentences are chock full of action words regarding love: patience, kindness, rejoicing, protecting, trusting, hoping and persevering. That reading doesn’t seem passive. It sounds more like a passionate coach getting his team fired up before a game.
Later in the book of John, a bewildered and perhaps annoyed Peter is asked by Jesus not once, but three times, “Do you love me?” After Peter responds with a resounding “yes” each time, Jesus gives him jobs to do: feed and tend my sheep. Essentially, Jesus is telling Peter, if you really love me, then care for others.
Arguably the best known of all Bible verses – John 3:16 – demonstrates what God did: he didn’t tell the world he was thinking of us. Rather, he gave his only Son because he loved us so much. That’s right, he gave – another firm action – which proves you can’t love without giving!
Love doesn’t just happen. It’s takes work. It’s not merely saying, it is doing.
It takes me. It takes you. But as Corinthians says, it’s patient, kind, it doesn’t envy and it isn’t proud. It protects, trusts, hopes and always perseveres.
If your good intentions lack action, look for ways to show your love by your deeds.